Around the years now we have had countless numbers of students complain about how mystifying the seduction procedure is and the way challenging it really is to determine wherever 1 stands using a female. These pupils have both taken packages with other providers and been left inside the darkish, or have just been not able to carry on having difficulties on their own and also have found that there was a bigger image they only weren‘t acquiring.
The easy, but detailed ABCDEF framework
It is actually with this particular, first confusion in head that we created the holistic composition in the ABCs of Attraction. That is an easy, progressive timeline that applies both of those to specific interactions, in addition to the full frame of the partnership and it really is broken down into 6 phases: A by way of F (the simple, but extensive ABCDEF framework).
With this collection of content articles, I‘ll explain these phases as well as the major factors of each and every, describing all of them and what pieces make up every single.
The next of such phases is B: Be While in the Second, Banter & Buying Temperature.
Once you‘ve gotten past the initial opener (A Phase), you are in-set that has a girl. The rest on the world knows this as ´Having a conversation‘. With so many routine-based methodologies and a wealth of things to say on PUA forums across the world, we sometimes forget that we are basically having a conversation (albeit, a purposeful conversation).
That's why it's so important to make a conscious effort to pay attention to what is going on within the interaction, but most importantly to HAVE FUN WITH HER!
The first component of B Phase is Be During the Instant.
This is really a perfect example of your Inner Strength that separates the men from the boys. Because we are a holistic-method company, we don‘t rely on particular tactics or routines. We encourage each person to search out his personal niche and to use his strengths to his advantage.
Be Animated. Be Expressive. BE REAL!!!
The idea will be to bring together all the various things of subcommunication that positively express your personality in a high impact, emotional manner. In other words:
Be ANIMATED!
Be EXPRESSIVE!
Be REAL!
The best way to do this will be to Be Inside the Second. Don‘t focus on particular lines or games; take a step back and realize how much you‘re enjoying the interaction. It‘s dramatic effect on your perspective will directly effect your confidence and attitude and immediately become apparent to your target, who will see your immersion and awareness as a very spontaneous and fun personality trait!
Be someone that always GIVES value! Or, like Gareth Jones likes to say, “Be a Fun MAKER! Not a Fun TAKER!â€
The 2nd component of B Phase is Banter.
Bantering makes flirting fun, easy, and effortless!
So often, women will say that a good conversationalist is extremely attractive to them because it shows a quick wit, perspective, plus the ability to represent ones-self confidently. We stress this kind of Verbal Attraction (one of your three, key components of the B Phase) in order to stimulate the woman‘s mind.
A man that can converse has an instant leg up. To develop this skill on your own, all you have to do is go out and talk! Talk to everyone you meet at the grocery store, at the restaurant and, especially, at the bar! Practice makes perfect and, within the case of Bantering, practice makes productivity!
A point that guys tend to forget is that people go out to clubs or bars to have fun and, as we teach, there are two types of people: fun takers and fun makers! Provide the fun that the girl came to seek out at the bar and develop strong Verbal Attraction like:
Cocky/Funny quips (“This is the worst first date ever!â€)
Funny questions (“So, what do you do when you‘re not picking up guys?â€)
Routines (“French Pillsbury Dough Boyâ€)
Silly games (Murder, Marry, Shag)
Etc
For those guys who‘s English is not your first language and uncover it hard to have that comic timing and mastery of verbal humor, concentrate on crafting quick, short hilarious stories rather than rapid fire repartee. Also concentrate on the unspoken forms of humor and having fun (ie dancing, high fives, etc) like BT Spikes.
The third component of B Phase is Buying Temperature.
Asian Playboy's Caveman Maneuver: BT Spike to make her laugh and have fun
A woman‘s BT is her general attraction to you and is increased by specific maneuvers called BT Spikes. These fun, witty, silly, and often very amusing physical (and sometimes verbal) tactics are what makes her enjoy herself and attach that feeling to the giver of fun (you!).
It is an example of Physical Confidence in each your body and her‘s as you affect her emotionally in a positive, fun manner. For example:
Dancing
“Flex For Meâ€
PUA Spin
APB‘s Caveman Maneuver
Etc
By inducing a “Buying Temperature†state, you‘re putting her in an EMOTIONAL RECEPTIVE mood. In other words, she LIKES you and FEELS GOOD about you.
That is why, for example, we don‘t need to do the False Time Constraint (FTC), and that is designed to lower her guard and convince her to not be suspicious of you and why you came up to her. These logical gambits are attempting to “trick†her brain otherwise.
We here at the ABCs of Attraction don‘t believe in tricking or manipulating a girl NOR do we believe in putting in extra unnecessary work that “tries hard†to get her to stay with us.
When you “pump up her Buying Temperature (BT)â€, she will already be in a good mood and WILL NOT CARE why you came up to her. In fact, by following the ABCDEF construction, she will want you to STAY! And not because of any routine you used to allay her skepticism, but because SHE ENJOYS YOUR PRESENCE!
Remember that Buying Temperature is transferable (meaning any guy can force you out on the set and take more than her heightened emotional state) and it can be short-lived, so once you‘ve gotten her emotional by spiking her BT, you‘ll want to proceed straight to the C Phase (Compliance, Comfort & Connect), the subject of our next article!
JT Tran is the leading dating and lifestyle coach for Asian men using PUA Banter and BT Spike. His company the ABCs of Attraction has been featured on NBC, ABC, and on the front pages of New York Magazine, AsianWeek, and LA Weekly. He leads a wide variety of PUA bootcamps, training seminars, and confidence workshops across the nation and internationally.